Friday, 30 August 2013

SBC Day 7: A surreal step back in time

My sister is visiting from Montreal and my dad tends to like to do memorable family outings with her.  The last time she was here (Sept 2009) we went out to the area where my Grandma grew up and said our final farewell to her.  She chose not to have a formal funeral, so we did a small family gathering for her.  This time, after doing a ton of online research, my dad found out that HIS grandma had been a teacher at the Hampton School just outside of Camrose so last night we headed out there.  Ironically (if you do the irony thing.  I personally believe everything happens for a reason), this was the SAME spot that we held the family gathering at! 




Dad had done the research and found the family who had the keys to this very old, original building.  The woman was a such a kind lady, opening it up for us and letting us just BE in the space.  Not to mention rifle through the closets, pull out years of books, tax records, land plots, and so so so much more.

It was a surreal feeling.  I stood at the front of the classroom where Florence Wagner stood in 1913 and later years as well.  100 years later to be in the same spot that my great-grandma was, and that my children's great-great-grandma had been - I was without words.  The school celebrated it's centennial in 2004 and many, many articles, photos and other items had been posted on the school walls.  We were celebrating our families centennial last night, unknowingly.  It wasn't until we were in the school as saw the list of teacher's names up on the wall (along with their salaries - Florence Wagner made $90 a month back in 1913) that we knew she had really been there and exactly when.

The lectern still stood at the front of the room, along with a few remaining desks, the original chalkboard and other small treasures.  A picture of Queen Victoria and Prince Philip was still hanging up at the front of the classroom.  Baseball gloves, bats and even old balls were at the back of the classroom.  We found outdated maps in one of the closets and rolled them out on the floor to see all the changes that have occurred, finding the map of Europe to be the one of most interest.  We flipped through the school's handwritten library sign out books, read the teaching contracts, looked at class photos from as far back as 1910.  We found maps of the land with the quarter-sections all drawn out, and read through the tax records.  The kids sat in the old wooden desks.  My heart was full.


There is an old well and water pump outside the school - the school has basic electricity now but no running water.  We pumped water for the kids to splash in, knowing that my great grandmother had done the same.  The outhouses were still there, and explaining to my 5 year old that even in the winter the kids had to go outside to use the washroom was difficult to say the least!  She will be entering a "smart school" in just a few days and wow, was this a foreign concept to her.  The stable where the kids who came to school via horse kept their horses during the day was no longer there, but we were shown where it used to be.  So much history and so little time but so much love and so surreal.

More photos will come as they are made available to me!

This post is a part of the Summer Blog Challenge 2013. You can check out the full list of participants HERE, and comment on Liam’s blog to join us! Meanwhile, check out what Liam, Natasha, Zita, Hethr, April, and others are up to!
 

Monday, 26 August 2013

SBC Day 5: Kindergarten, take two

Okay, so I was all chill a couple of days ago about MBear starting Kindergarten.  That was, until last night.  All of a sudden my little girl seems so grown up.  Not since that last post, but I think maybe I`m letting it hit me now.  This time next week her outfit will be on the chair in her room, she will be sleeping (hopefully not still vibrating with excitement), her backpack will be by the backdoor and she will be ready to leave me in the morning.
Today, after seeing a back to school commercial, she expressed her extreme detest for homework to me.  Then she asked me what exactly homework was and if she would have any.  She promptly found a workbook in one of her storage bin drawers, brought it over to me and we spent the next half and hour matching up words that rhyme, words that start with the same sound, coloring in pictures in patterns and more.  Little does she know that she LOVES homework without ever being given any.  She is such a mini-me.  In both good and bad ways, but that is yet another blog post.
I will miss many of our tender moments together as she leaps off the diving board into real, official school.  But now I can anticipate the time we spend together after school doing homework or whatever she needs to help her grow.  As long as she doesn't lose her childhood wisdom anytime soon.
Me: "MBear, why is there a wet cloth on the floor?" (In the playroom).
MBear: "To get the syrup off my foot."
Me: "How did you get syrup on your foot?"
MBear: "From the poodle nool." (Pool noodle). 

Genius child.  Pure genius.  



This post is a part of the Summer Blog Challenge 2013. You can check out the full list of participants HERE, and comment on Liam’s blog to join us! Meanwhile, check out what Liam, Natasha, Zita, Hethr, April, and others are up to!

SBC Day 4: Sleeeeeeeeeep

Sleep, precious sleep...why must you evade me?  Pregnancy insomnia started who knows when, followed by 10 and a half months of 2-4 feedings per night and I can't forget the other nightly wake-ups coming from M-Bear when she has "bad dreams" that are really just bad thoughts that she feels she needs to wake us up about.  This mama needs a full night's sleep!! That isn't counting the one night when the monitor battery died and I got 5.5 hours of straight sleep - the pain and shock that I awoke to cancel out any thought that that was close to what is considered a full night's sleep.  And who came up with the crazy idea that 6 hours is a full night's sleep?  Definitely not a mom.  I need 9-10 to function normally.  Needless to say, it has been over a year since that has happened here.  With two kids, I can't nap when the baby sleeps - that's playtime and one on one time to be spent on the other.  Someone, please tell me that sleeping through the night will happen again...I am feeling desperate, tired and well, tired.  Sleep used to be my best friend and now it feels like we had an ugly, ugly break up. 

This post is a part of the Summer Blog Challenge 2013. You can check out the full list of participants HERE, and comment on Liam’s blog to join us! Meanwhile, check out what Liam, Natasha, Zita, Hethr, April, and others are up to!

Saturday, 24 August 2013

SBC Day 3: Hold your head and value high

I have some amazingly talented friends.  Friends who are talented at making and doing all sorts of things.  Baking, sewing, cutting hair, knitting, taking pictures, teaching skills...the list goes on and on.  But I've stumbled on something that bothers me...and it has to do with business.  Don't get me wrong - I am no business guru, I have no degree in business or marketing.  But I do understand the law of supply and demand.  A LOT of these friends are in high demand because they have such AMAZING products or services.  Here's what I struggle with - friends who don't see the same value in their product and are reluctant to follow through with commitments, or they offer their products/services at drastically reduced prices/rates.

**Please note that this post is NOT directed at any one individual, company or product.  These experiences have occured in the last year to 18 months and with more people/companies/products than I can count on both my hands.**

I know that a lot of these friends are moms with small children.  And I GET THAT.  There never seem to be enough hours in the day, days in the week, weeks in the month, etc.  But not returning emails or phone calls when someone is inquiring about a product or service isn't the right answer.  Instead, let that person know how busy you are and that your time is a something you value.  By doing that, you are allowing yourself a) freedom to give yourself grace with timelines; b) create an even higher value for your product or service; and c) create higher demand!

For example, if I was to call a friend and book an appointment for a haircut, I would appreciate a phone call in return.  And if, during that phone call, she told me that she couldn't find childcare for her kids, and really no time before the date I needed her, I would ask her for a recommendation just this once and definitely come back to her.  I would be so thankful to see her the next time and would definitely tip well because of the extra service help she provided rather than ignoring me.  She has her priorities in line and I absolutely respect that.  In the future, I would book further in advance to help alleviate the problem of last minute childcare and after seeing her, rave about how wonderful, amazing and talented she is.  After all, her business is just that - a BUSINESS, and both she and it deserve to be treated with respect.

Instead, what I am finding is that phone calls, emails, website inquiries are not being returned at all and therefore I am stuck at square one, looking for something/someone new to fulfill my need and allowing them to wow me, possibly taking the place of the original talent just because they responded!  In the future, who am I more likely to contact first?  The person who didn't respond to my inquiry or the one who fulfilled my need?

The other issue I have is the provider who doesn't see the same value in themselves or their product, and almost gives it away for free.  Don't get me wrong - I like a good sale or a discount for repeat purchases, but FRIENDS!  We have to take pride in ourselves and our businesses and not feel the need to just break even!  If you're selling at a deeply discounted rate it concerns me that you are not interested in what you are doing any more or that you are not passionate about it and I fear losing you and your talents or products.

I don't want to leave this post without some solutions.  They are not amazing - I stated earlier that I am NOT your go-to business adviser.  I'm not even going to touch the topic of work/life balance (okay, maybe in a future post, but I am not even close to dreaming of having that answer).  Simple solutions of having basic, minimum set hours for your business, especially for responding to inquiries.  Even if it's just one hour, twice a week when you check your business email and/or phone number and return those inquiries.  Have a message on your phone stating that time, and an out of office notice on your email so that people can know when to expect a response.  If you don't need the entire hour, awesome!  You just got back some time to do whatever you need to do - take a bath, read a chapter of your neglected book, just BREATHE in this busy world that you live in.

And as far as discounting products, know your market value!  If people are willing to pay full price then CHARGE IT.  There is no need to discount just to make a sale.  At times of the year you will need to move old stock to bring in new, or sell quickly to bring in some extra cash.  Make sure you clearly promote these times as sales, using whatever verbage appeals to you.  People will not come to expect reduced prices from you unless it is something you continually offer them.

Friends, I hope you all can take just a little nugget from this.  You have something amazing that the world needs to know about.  You may think it's small and insignificant, but it's making a difference in the lives of others.  Whether filling the need for a unique product, providing a service that makes people feel better about themselves, or just helping people put one foot in front of the other and continue moving forwards, please know that you have value.  Please take the time to put some simple systems in place to help manage your time effectively and stay true to who you are/what you represent.  You have worked hard to get your product or service noticed, now is the time to be proud, stand behind it and it's price with no fear of the dollar amount the market has placed on it!

Much love to you all, and I hope to see you on my shopping ventures soon!

S

Thursday, 22 August 2013

SBC Day 2: Kindergarten

Today I'm getting ready for Kindergarten.  Well, not me exactly.  M-Bear is starting in under 2 weeks.  I've got her back to school wardrobe done.  (I recommend shopping here.)  She has labels, indoor shoes, a new backpack and a cheque written for school supplies.  I love that her school buys in bulk and the teachers take from the storage closet as needed.
Most moms would be writing about the struggle they are going through letting their baby go.  And then there's me.  At this moment (I think that is KEY), I am perfectly fine with walking her down the street, giving her a hug and taking a picture for her scrapbook.  (Which I do not do, so let's just say for memories sake.)  I'm sending her out into that big giant world and I don't think I will shed a single tear or have a moment of hesitation.  Am I in denial or is something wrong with me?  Sure, I'll miss her for a few hours but I still get all afternoon with her.  I'll have some one-on-one time with Mini-D and/or take a nap and then she'll be back.  Am I too level headed?  Why on earth do I not feel like all the other mom's around me??

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Other #SBC2013-ers:  Magz, Natasha, and April with more I'm sure!

Wednesday, 21 August 2013

SBC Day 1: Day One

I love to write.  Really and truly.  When I was younger I had a number of articles published and I was asked to attend writing conferences.  I don't know why I stopped but I knew after last years Summer Blogging Challenge that I needed to do the 2013 version.  And here I am.

I have a ton of ideas of what I would like to write about, now I just need the time to get them out of my head.  All while getting my daughter ready to start Kindergarten and running before and after school care for the school down the road.  Thank goodness for being allowed to write make up posts!!  I can't wait to see what my fellow bloggers come up with this year!!

Stacy

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Also joining in #SBC2013 - check out Magz, Natasha, and April with more to be added I'm sure!

Tuesday, 23 July 2013

Half Way Point...

So...we are halfway through 2013.  Well, more than that but it's going by way too fast.  I'll stick with just halfway!
I set some goals back in January and I want to check in on them.  Honestly, I can't remember some of them, so I don't think I'm doing very well.  This is the check in/check up that I need right now!
  • figure out what to do for work, make sure I will LOVE it!
    • Until yesterday, I was sure I was done this.  Then I saw a job posting and now I'm rethinking everything.  Unless I can make the two work together...
  • sell the little yellow house.  Bittersweet...
    • Little yellow house (which is actually green) is currently occupied by two great renters who are expecting a baby!  We are going through sales discussions with them, trying to figure out how to make this work for all of us.  House will either go up for sale in October OR rent will have to take a significant jump.  We are on the fence, we love these renters!
  • more meet ups/tweet ups/playdates with amazing women and their kids!
    • So far, fail here.  But I still have 6 months to go.  And the rest of summer...
  • unplug more often, be more present especially with family.
    • Yes, and no.  Sometime I can do it, other times not so much.  
  • celebrate babies!  MOAR babies, as MagzD would say. 
    • Seriously folks.  42 babies that I know of are scheduled to be born in 2013.  42!!!  What is in the water, and boy am I glad that I didn't drink it!  27 have made their entrance so far.  One sweet baby girl grew her angel wings and has left us already, but she will never be forgotten... <3
  • celebrate 10 years of US - with the family and without... ;)
    • Our anniversary came and we had a great date night.  I was absolutely shocked to receive a gift...containing diamonds, sapphires, amethyst and more!  I am usually the one who does surprises, so this caught me off guard completely.  This goal is half completed - due to still breastfeeding Mini-D we were not able to get away for alone time.  This is being bumped to a 2014 goal - and I have a secret plan of my own to get away and enjoy JUST each other!
  • make that number on the scale a little lower...
    • Not happening.  It goes up and comes down.  Then I stop jumping on the scale.  I have contacted a trainer to start a program and am looking into a few options.  Also looking into some circus classes to reconnect with my former gymnast/dance self for the fall.  
  • plan a #kickass2014 New Years Eve par-taaaay!
    • THIS IS IN THE WORKS!  Planning is happening, lots of pinning on Pinterest, and yes, it will happen!  Hoping for awesome weather to incorporate some outside fun into my plans too!
  • go to church a little more.  
    • So far, nope.  Not even once.  Maybe in the fall when we get into a regular routine?  We are away so many weekends this summer.  That doesn't account for the previous 6 months.  I am completely making excuses, probably because I don't want to go back to the church we were going to before, and church hunting is NOT fun.  Plus, we have to do it with kids now.  I need to bump this up in priority I think!
  • spend some quality time with my sister who lives far away.  Too far...
    • HAPPENING and I couldn't be more excited!  I can't take any credit for this at all - she is planning a trip out here in just over a month.  I am focusing on the QUALITY part of this goal.  I want her to be super involved with the kids (her only niece/nephew) and feel like she doesn't live so far away.  Still waiting on dates from her so we can plan this time to it's fullest!!
  • get our amazing back yard landscaped.
    • This is going to be a fail, but not our fault at all.  Our builders have yet to get approval for our rough grade, so we can't touch landscaping at all.  Very, very disappointed in this, as we have a gorgeous space that we can't use at all.  Except weed picking.  Which was not a goal at all.  :(
  • grow my already awesome business even more!
    • I just returned from an amazing business conference and this is also happening.  A little differently than originally planned as my eyes have been opened and my direction/vision has shifted.  I do so much more than sell clothes.  Watch for future updates on this!
  • do something that is WAY outside my comfort zone.  Yet to be determined...
    • COMPLETED!  In a way I never imagined.  I am still processing this, it will get the focus of one entire post!
There you have it!  Updated goals for 2013!  I still have a long, long, long way to go but checking just a couple of them off feels great.  Changing up the ones that aren't working and being okay with the ones that simply won't happen this year is sitting okay as well.  If you set goals for 2013 how are you doing with them?  I would love to hear!

~ Stacy